HOW
DO I COMPLETELY GET OVER SOMEONE I LOVE WHEN HE DO NOT FEEL THE SAME WAY FOR
ME?
Tough circumstance - being in love with someone who does not feel the
same way as you do. It's not a problem - you can fix those, this is almost like
"it's raining outside" - just have to deal. Objective advice: If
someone doesn't feel the same way as you do - walk off. Don't even give them
the privilege of friendship because you'll suck yourself back into the
delusion. Do things for yourself, keep busy, bury yourself in work and keep
searching for what you really want and need.
Try not to be in contact because it’s almost
like an addiction. You think that one little text will do no harm but the pain
when he doesn't reply will just make things worse.
There is one more thing I can recommend. There
are times when you feel very weak and feel you need to talk to that other
person even though they may have just hurt you again, you don't know why you
want to talk to them, you just do. I've been able to get by these weak moments
by writing down exactly what I'm feeling at the time, it comes out in a jumble
of feelings and thoughts, some not so pleasant, but in the end it actually
helps and I don't feel to call the person anymore.
Tough one. If you know for a fact there is no hope for a mutual love,
then why torture yourself. Move on. Treat it like a divorce. FORCE yourself to
live and keep meeting people. You owe it to yourself to be available for when
the right person does come along. Sometimes we don't ever think we could possibly
find someone better than the one we are in love with that doesn't return the
love back, but that's not true. We just won't be ready to find it if we are pining
for a love that is not healthy or returned. We owe it to ourselves to always
know we deserve what's best and healthy. Stop being around that person if at
all possible. If you can't, then think in your mind about how wonderful it
would be to actually find someone special that returns your love. Tell yourself
that you deserve it. We can't control love no matter how hard we try. It's just
one of those things, but we can choose to love again.
A broken heart is never fun. Life goes on. We have to as well. We owe it
to ourselves to know we simply go on. We will meet another person but we
shouldn't while we are hurting. We'll often end up not being as clear headed.
We want someone to love us and to feel wanted, but that's a potential for
another mess. Or, you could end up hurting someone they way you were hurt. When
your heart is mended, you'll know. Every single day we get just a tiny bit
better. Ok, maybe not every day, but if we can just make it from one day to the
next and keep doing it, pretty soon we will feel better, if only a little, but
that's a start to total healing.
You accept yourself as you are, love yourself for who you are, forgive
yourself for decisions and actions that have brought you pain, never settle for
anything less then what you desire and deserve. Love is all about timing, make
yourself the best person you can be both mentally and physically and do it for
yourself no man. Once you do that, you will no longer waste your time on men
who do not see you for who you are. You will see yourself as beautiful a woman
that has so much to offer to the right man.
You also must make a conscious effort to get him out of your life.
Keeping him as a friend will bring only more pain, this is from experience. Let
him go, delete his name off your cell phone, off your email, put the pictures
away. It is your choice to be miserable about the situation, which for the
first few months everyone chooses to be sad.
You have one life why sit there and waste it
on a man who can't see all facets of your beauty. You have one life to be
happy, love yourself, forgive yourself and you will see that that love will
radiate and men will be attracted to that. Good men will be attracted to your
positive self worth. And that positive self worth gets rid of all the baggage
from past relationships that ruin current ones. But this is a choice, a
conscious choice to leave the past and be happy and only you can make it. Know
it won’t be easy, but in the end you will have the love you have always desired.
All you can do is take it a day at a time and pray for strength.
Time is the key. When you love someone you must know when it
is time to let go. As hard as this may sound, strength, courage and knowledge
is gathered from a broken heart. No one promised that love would last forever,
nor that it wouldn't, it's just a chance. Life is a chance. Love yourself,
pray, not only for you, but for that person as well. Never let bad feelings or
experience change the person you are. No one wants a wounded bird, so
understand that you need time to heal internally. There is no set time on when
this will happen, but just let it take it's course. When the time is right, and
you feel like you are ready to love again, don't look for it, let it find you.
Keep God first, and never question his work. We will never know what the man
has in store, and who is to say that you two won't love again, when the time is
right, or maybe you both have matured. Life is short, so enjoy and savor your
breath. Your battle is not lost, you are just beginning to live.
There is no easy way to get over someone, but
you will get over them. The time it takes varies from person to person and
depends on how close you were to the person you're trying to get over with.
It's hard work to get over someone. The reason is you have to begin weeding
them out of your life, and stop contacting them if you are, if they keep
contacting you, then take longer and longer to get back to them. Remember to
remain detached. Over time you'll go through the different stages of feeling
where you get to the point of anger, in that you begin asking yourself,
"why am I continuing to beat myself up over someone who clearly isn't
interested, if they were, they're not anymore, I've done everything I can to
show I'm interested and I keep getting knocked down." You will realize
it's not worth it. Life is too short and their are millions of people out
there, one who will love you completely, the way you love them. If you made
some mistakes in the previous union, you'll know what they are and will do your
best to avoid doing them again.
If you love someone then you should know that you would never
force your love to do something... these things are always natural which comes
with the glimpse of feelings and you have to give time... everything will be
alright.
Try your best to forget about that person. It may seem hard,
but there are ways to forget the person by trying to go out more often with
other friends, making a new hobby, or simply just meeting new people. Another
good way is to avoid communicating with the person as much as possible - no
texting or calling them.
don’t try to be their friend, lose ALL contact,
do the things you used to do before you met, talk to your old friends, they
will help you remember who you were and maybe help you find someone new, make a
list of things you want to do with your life like your dreams, write, sing, dance.
don’t just lay around sulking about it, remind yourself every day YOU ARE WORTH
IT,YOU ARE BETTER OFF.
"You never
stop loving someone;
you just learn to
live without them."
Free your mind from
worries.
Live simple.
Give more.
Expect less.
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