Saturday, September 14, 2019

MEN AND WOMEN DO NOT TALK THE SAME


The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
-Genesis 2:18

Men and women just don’t communicate the same way, contends a new book “You just don’t understand women and men in conversation.” Written by sociologist Deborah Tannen. Tannen videotaped hundreds of hours of conversations between males and females and analyzed the substance of their conversations.

Have you experienced difficulty in communicating with your mate or members of the opposite sex?

One: Remember that men communicate from the realm of the physical, women the emotional. Communication has three levels (1) trivia (2) facts (3) emotions. Men reach the limits of their ability to communicate when they explore feelings. With women, however, it begins there and go from the physical to the emotional.

Two: Remember that communication means something totally different to men. When asked to rate themselves as a communicator on a scale of 1 to 10, men always rate themselves 3 points above their wive’s rating.

Three: Understand that every person has a vital need to communicate; look for the level of communication which allows adequate expressions. For a man, it means opening up to vent emotions and feelings; for a woman, it means understanding that her husband may be trying when she reads his efforts as insufficient. And she offers criticism.

Four: Accept that communication skills can be learned no matter how you grew up.

Five: Learn to interpret the non-verbal signals which communicate in more than 700, 000 ways.

Six: Tell your mate how much you value your relationship and why communication is important to you.

Charles Dickens gave good advice when he said: Never close your lips to him to whom you have opened your heart.

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