The Lord God said, “It is
not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
-Genesis 2:18
Men and women just don’t
communicate the same way, contends a new book “You just don’t understand women and
men in conversation.” Written by sociologist Deborah Tannen. Tannen videotaped
hundreds of hours of conversations between males and females and analyzed the
substance of their conversations.
Have you experienced
difficulty in communicating with your mate or members of the opposite sex?
One: Remember that men
communicate from the realm of the physical, women the emotional. Communication
has three levels (1) trivia (2) facts (3) emotions. Men reach the limits of
their ability to communicate when they explore feelings. With women, however,
it begins there and go from the physical to the emotional.
Two: Remember that
communication means something totally different to men. When asked to rate
themselves as a communicator on a scale of 1 to 10, men always rate themselves
3 points above their wive’s rating.
Three: Understand that
every person has a vital need to communicate; look for the level of
communication which allows adequate expressions. For a man, it means opening up
to vent emotions and feelings; for a woman, it means understanding that her
husband may be trying when she reads his efforts as insufficient. And she
offers criticism.
Four: Accept that
communication skills can be learned no matter how you grew up.
Five: Learn to interpret
the non-verbal signals which communicate in more than 700, 000 ways.
Six: Tell your mate how
much you value your relationship and why communication is important to you.
Charles Dickens gave good
advice when he said: Never close your lips to him to whom you have opened your
heart.
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