5 WAYS TO HEAL FROM A BROKEN HEART

Posted by Pamela in Advice

When you suffer a broken heart it feels like your world is coming to an end. The pain can be unbearable. It is hard to sleep, eat or concentrate. You wonder if you will be able to feel good or be happy ever again.

·       Shelly fell in love with a married man. She did not mean for it to happen.  He was smart,

Successful,interesting, and totally sexy. They had a great time together and he wined and dined her. She was not looking for anything serious so why not? Well before she knew it months turned into years.  And by this time she had become attached.  He promised to leave his wife but that never happened. Finally she was able to let go of the relationship, but she felt she had wasted some of the most valuable years of her life.

·       Holly was in a relationship with a man for 5 years. They were engaged to be married but he

was reluctant to set a date. Every time she would bring it up he would make an excuse about money, or that it was a bad time in his life right now etc. He would say, lets discuss it next year. One day Holly came home to find him gone. He had met another woman, she was pregnant and they were getting married right away. She felt she could never recover from that kind of betrayal.

SO HOW DO YOU RECOVER FROM THIS KIND OF HEARTBREAK? HOW DO YOU TRUST AGAIN?

Everyone has suffered crushing heartbreak at least one time in their life. Some people are able to recover and move on to find new love while others get stuck in their pain and seem unable to move past it. That does not have to be you! Here are the 5 ways to let go of heartbreak.

1.  Mourn Your Loss Completely. Allow yourself to cry, feel sad and experience your pain.  Most people who are stuck in heartache deny their feelings of loss and sadness and have never really grieved.

2.  Be Nice to Yourself. Comfort yourself during this hard time in your life.  What you have been through is hard. You need loving care.  Thinking negative and demeaning thoughts about yourself will only add to your hurt and pain.

3.  Take Inventory. After you have done your grieving take a good hard look at the relationship. What things in the relationship worked? What did not work for you? Were there any warning signs?

4.  Forgiveness. Write a list of all the things you feel your ex did to you and all the reasons you are angry at him. Then write down any ways that you may be angry at yourself. Set the intention to let this all go. Burn the paper and picture your resentments all melting away.

5.  Write Your True Love. Write a love letter to your true love. While you are writing, see yourself happy and loved in the relationship of your dreams.  Keep the letter by your beside to remind you that the best is yet to come!

If you find yourself stuck in any of these steps or you are unable to let go of the past heartache, seek the assistance of a dating coach or therapist. You deserve to move on from this and find the love you deserve! Healing from heartbreak will allow you to open your heart so you can love again. Heartbreak can be tough, but you can and will recover! Your true love is on the way and the best IS yet to come!!!