I’M IN LOVE WITH MY BEST FRIEND

I’ve been in love with my best friend for almost 3 years now (2011-2014). I want to stop being in love with him; I want to stop thinking that things will change and one day we’ll be together. I know it’s unhealthy to think this way, but I can’t get over him. He means a lot to me and I know I mean a lot to him, but I need to get over him. I feel the best solution for both of us would be to cut him out of my life, but I don’t want to cut him out of my life, he’s my best friend. What can I do? This situation has been causing me great stress and sadness. Depression has always been a struggle for me throughout we became friends in 2011, but I’ve become a lot sadder the past year over this man. I’ve tried dating other guys in hopes of getting over him but I can’t seem to find someone else that compares. I feel really lonely too, all the time.  Sometimes, I want to decide not to see him anymore, but it’s impossible because we’re attending the same Church.

Answer: The question to ask yourself is whether you care enough about your friend to let him go. Where that leaves you is grieving the “what if guy” in your life. It’s a real grief. If things were different, something more than friendship might have developed between you two but you’ll never know. It’s important that you give yourself room to grieve. Then it’s equally important to do whatever you need to do to move on. Dating others won’t work as long as you are still holding out hope for your “what if guy.” Your heart isn’t in it. The guys you date sense that you just aren’t into them.

Find a way to take some distance from your guy friend. Wish him all the best in the world. Then start putting yourself into activities that genuinely interest you where you can start getting to know other guys. Working together is a perfect way to get to know people well without jumping right into dating. You’re not ready for that. But you do need to get busy enough so that you’re not tempted to isolate and get depressed. The antidote to loneliness is to be with other people.

I understand this is terribly hard. I do sympathize. But I also think real friendship sometimes calls for real sacrifice. I hope you will do your grief work and then give yourself the chance to find the guy who is out there waiting for you.

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

GIVE ME STRENGTH, LORD

Most of us realize that our own strength is not always enough to get through some of the situations that this life brings. At those difficult times, it is wise to call on God for extra strength and for His strength to help sustain you when your own strength fails. (Psalms 28:8 and Isaiah 40:29)

GIVE ME STRENGTH, LORD

Lord, you are Holy above all others, and all of the strength that I need is in your hands.

I am not asking, Lord, that you take this trial away. Instead, I simply ask that Your will be done in my life. Whatever that means, that is what I want.

But I admit that it's hard, Lord.

Sometimes I feel like I can’t go on. The pain and the fear are too much for me, and I know that I don’t have the strength on my own to get through this.

I know that I can come to you, Jesus, and that you will hear my prayer. I know that it is not your intent to bring me to this point just to leave me in the wilderness alone.

Please, Lord, give me the strength that I need to face today. don't have to worry about tomorrow.

If you just give me the strength that I need today that is all I need.

Keep me from sinning during this trial. Instead, help me to keep my eyes on you. You are the Holy Lord, and all of my hope rests in you.

Thank you for hearing my prayer.

In Jesus' name. Amen.

FULLTIME IN THE LORD

FULLTIME in the LORD means…

"I'm but a Love Slaves!
I have no freedom of my own;
I cannot choose the smallest thing -
Nor e'en my way.
I'm a slave!
Kept to do the bidding of my Master -
He can call me night or day.
Were I a servant, I could claim wages -
Freedom sometimes, anyway.
But I was bought -
Blood was the price my Master paid for me,
And I am now His slave -
And evermore will be.
He takes me here, He takes me there,
He tells me what to do;
I just obey, that's all -
I trust Him too!"

 1 Corinthians 10:13 & Romans 8:35 explains…

“Walang problema whatever it is either gawa ng diyablo, sakit, karamdaman, testing of love for Jesus, emotional pressures sa bigat at dami ng tungkulin, kasinungalingan ni satan, false accusation, unfavorable things na nagaganap sa atin ang maaaring mag-alis sa matagal na nating minahal, pinili, ipinaglaban, pinanindigang si Jesus and the truth coz we knew by experience how much Jesus love us that’s why He choose and predestined us before the creation to live like Him.”

 

Matthew 24:12-13 explains…

“The love of many grow cold but we who stands firm to the end will be saved.”

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I WANT TO BE MORE LIKE YOU

God is not committed to our comfort. He is committed to our character and to
making us more like Jesus. Only God can exchange the ashes of our sin for the
beauty of His forgiveness and grace. God alone can replace our despair with
His peace that passes all understanding. Hope can only be found in Him. Our
purpose in life is to know and become more like Jesus … and act just like our
Father.  

Let’s Pray:
Father, I want to be more like You. Give me the strength to withstand the
trials in my life. Help me love the people who are hard to love and forgive
the people who have hurt and even abused me. Burn away the sin in my life, and
empower me to live for You. Create a clean heart in me, Lord, and teach me how
to live for You.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

FEARING GOD LEADS TO ETERNITY

Fearing God doesn't mean being afraid of him; it means standing in awe of him.Fear connotes a healthy respect and honor. God’s goodness cascades like a fountain over those who respect him, protecting them from the things that could bring them harm.

He is a fountain of life on earth and in eternity. On earth, when you show you fear God by obeying his commands, you will avoid the people and places that are physically and spiritually dangerous to you. Your fear for God will carry you into eternal life, where his love will pour over you forever.

KUYA M:)

Best friend ever

We first met in our Church at Cubao, Quezon City (2011) to take happily the task of translation I’m offering to him. What caught my attention that day was his welcoming smile, ignoring who I am really was.

But we didn’t become friends then. Not until I began to apologize for everything my friends and became also his friends treated him not so good.   That became the avenue for us to get to know each other.

Boundless

But he turned out to have the kindest heart. He listens to my woes and he makes me feel important.

What I love about him is his being open minded. He is good in explaining things. He helped me through the lowest point of my life.

I cannot imagine myself not having him because he is one of the most selfless person I have ever met. He is always there whenever I need support. 

His friendship is boundless….

Time

What I admire about Kuya Mark is that he is a very open-minded person. I get to discuss whatever topic I want and he will always give me that from-the-bottom-of-his-heart answer.

He is very friendly and every friend I introduce to him becomes his friend as well. She is a very good listener and that makes him a keeper.

Respect

Though we have different beliefs attitudes, I think we learned to understand each other’s way of thinking.

We respect each other’s opinion and decisions. Just like most relationships that are built on trust and respect, I think it will provide us a strong foundation of friendship.

We may not take the same path together after some of our decisions are in effect, but I know that wherever we will be in the future, we will be friends forever.

Thank you Kuya Mark, muli, sa mga prutas and a glimpse of visit, haha (Huwebes, 31 July 2014).

ATE M:)

I do not believe in the idea of having a best friend because of not-so-good experiences in the past.  But Ate Almina changed everything.  We belonged to the same faith at Church.

Here we are…

Cheesy

Every time we have text chats, the word “I love you” is always twinned to it.  When I go to Church and not that busy after the service, I will text her, “Ate, Kitakitz po sa uwian ah, I love you.”  And she will reply, “Sige po Ate Yhang, kitakitz po, I love you.” As cheesy as it was but it brings joy that money can’t buy.

The moment I realized I had a best friend

I knew I had a best friend in Ate Almina when, just like any relationship, what we had between us was tested and shaken.  But what surprised was that this person never gave up on me. She never left me hanging. She made me believe that friendship is really not only for when times are good. She showed that our friendship is too precious to be broken.  I found a friend deeply concerned about my feelings, someone who did not take me for granted.

My hardest decision

The moment I want to decide to leave what i am now, Ate Almina is one of the first person I told.  We were exchanging thanks and happy stories on text when I broke the news to her. She burst into sadness and told me that it would never be the same when I'm gone.  This was also the time when our friendship started to bloom in its fragrance and beauty, so she was feeling especially vulnerable.

Treks

I promised her that even if my decision became true, we would see each other often.  I will go to her house and she will visit to us, too.

She never gets tired of me.

What I love most about her is that she embraces the real me. I can be honest and blunt with her.  I love her because she makes me feel that I am important and our friendship is special.

Through thick and thin

Above all, I will never stop being her younger sister, her confidante and her friend because I know that she will do the same for me.  Through thick and thin, I will always be here for her.

THANK YOU ATE MINS, I LOVE YOU:)

Thank you Ate Mins, muli, sa paper bag na puno ng pagmamahal at pagkalinga, haha (Huwebes, 31 July 2014).