First, try to understand that their
feelings are sensitive. They get affected so easily even if they don’t often
times make it seem to obvious. They feel things deeply. They share their hearts
to everyone when they’re happy, but they withdraw themselves from society when
they’re sad.
Someone who constantly feels lonely
isn’t trying to be emotional just to grab people’s attention. Being lonely
isn’t something that they wish to have. They’d give their all if only they can
run away from loneliness. But the problem is that they can’t, because
loneliness become their creepy companion everywhere they go, whoever they’re
with.
Loneliness is always just few feet
away from them, waiting for the right time when it can enter their personal
bubbles. It’s attached to them in an invisible thread that they can’t cut no
matter how many times they try.
Being friends with someone who grew
up welcoming solitude in their lives is like learning a new language – it’s difficult
and strange in the beginning but sooner you’ll get used to it. You’ll realize
that every one of us has experienced what it’s like to feel empty on the inside
– some of us are just good at hiding it.
When you are friends with someone who
has extreme emotions, you have to be always aware and careful of how you treat
them. You have to be thoughtful of the words that you’re going to say to them,
because they never forget everything that they hear. You have to include them
in all your plans because making them feel like outsiders is one thing that you
should be avoiding at all cost.
Never let the day end without
comprising with them when you had disagreements with each other. Don’t take
them for granted when they’re upbeat, when they become chatty, when they laugh
a lot, because you don’t get to see them living every day with their souls full
of energies. Avoid playing with their feelings and assuming that they will
always stay with you.
When they’re having a bad day, give
them the space and time that they need. Know that they have to breathe and be
far away from everyone to figure out what’s best for them. They need to hear
their thoughts well and dig in to their feelings, because that’s how they solve
their issues efficiently.
Be happy for them when they come back
into your life. Update them with everything that they missed out while they
were healing on their own. Treat them the way you usually do before they
completely shut off everyone around them. Show them that you totally get what
they’re going through.
Because once you’ve proven to them
that you actually care about their vulnerabilities, they will stick up with you
forever. They will consider you as their most trusted ally and the one they
will always be thankful for. They will support you when you’re the one who
needs some help.
They will return the love that you’re
giving them. They will hear all your sentiments in life. They will believe in
you even if everyone doesn’t.
Being friends with someone who’s too
familiar with the feeling of loneliness will do their best to not let you
experience what they are constantly battling. They will give light in your life
when you’re lost. They will hang out with you when you’re heartbroken. They
will watch movies with you when you can’t sleep at night.
People who constantly feel lonely
just want to find home in someone’s heart. They want to be welcomed and be
respected by what they think and what they feel. They want to know that someone
can relate to them.
They want you to accept them. Make
them feel less scared. Stop their thoughts from destroying them. And tell them
that they can count on you.
Give them the freedom that they need
sometimes. Fill their souls with your love. Inspire them to overcome their
struggles.
And lastly, let them know that beside
you, they can always feel like they belong.
-thought catalog
God Bless Us..
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