WHEN WILL MY TURN COME

You’ve come to the end of this book. You’ve read stories of many different couples. What about you? Where are you in your story?

Maybe you feel like you’re waiting for it to begin. Maybe reading all the happy endings has been a painful reminder that you’re still alone.

“Boy meets girl” hasn’t happened to you. You haven’t met the right woman. The right man hasn’t come along. Or if he did, he failed to notice you. I’m glad you’re enjoying marriage, Josh, you might be thinking, but what about me?

 I won’t pretend to know all the disappointments you’ve faced. I don’t know what you’ve been through or how long you’ve waited. Every day I get letters from men and women who have waited far longer than I did and experienced much more pain. I don’t have easy answers. “All I ever wanted was to be married,” a woman who wrote me. “I thought it would have happened by now.” The honesty with which she confessed her struggle was heartbreaking:

I used to wonder, “What’s wrong with me?” but now I’m wondering what’s right. I asked God to take away my burning desire for marriage if it’s not His plan for me, but He hasn’t.

I’ve never admitted this because I feel so ashamed, but I’ve stopped going to weddings, because jealousy gets the best of me. The last wedding I attended just overwhelmed me. All went well until the end when the Pastor said, “You may kiss your bride for the first time.” The groom lifter her veil, and everyone was expecting them to just go ahead and kiss, but they didn’t. Instead he slowly cupped her face in his hands, and they just stood there looking deep into each other’s eyes. I could almost hear their secret communication. Then they smiled and kissed, long and deeply.

At that point, I lost it. The tears poured from my eyes, and I sobbed in silence. The lump in my throat was so huge that I could only manage to squeak out a few words to the bride in the reception line. No one suspected that I was so jealous; they thought I was being sentimental. But she knew. While tears ran down my face, she looked at me sympathetically and then put her arms around me and held me tight.

I left the reception early. When I got home I fell across my bed and cried. “When will it be my turn, Lord?”

Are you asking that question? “When will it be my turn? When will my story begin?”

If you’re single, I believe that God wants you to see that your story has begun. Life doesn’t start when you find a spouse. Marriage is wonderful, but it’s simply a new chapter in life. It’s just new way to do what we’re all created to do – to live for and glorify our Creator.

Right now, God is working all the elements of your life together for your good (Romans 8:28). This time in your life is part of your story. Maybe it’s not what you had planned. Maybe you wish your Prince or Princess would have arrived by now. But God is right on schedule. He knows exactly what He’s doing. He sees you right where you are. He hasn’t forgotten you. He hasn’t overlooked you. The circumstances you’re going through – no matter how difficult – are part of the very happy ending He has planned.

God is greater than your circumstances. My Pastor, C.J. Mathaney, once told a group of singles: “Your greatest need is not a spouse. Your greatest need is to be delivered from the wrath of God – and that has already been accomplished for you through the death and resurrection of Christ. So why doubt that God will provide a much, much lesser need? Trust His sovereignty, trust His wisdom, truth His love.”

I don’t have any pat answers. I can only urge you to trust Him.

Trust God’s sovereignty. He sees your end from your beginning. His plan for your life can’t be thwarted. He is in control.

Trust God’s wisdom. If marriage is His will for you, He knows exactly what you need in a spouse. And in His unfathomable wisdom. He knows when you’ll be ready. His timing will be perfect.

Trust God’s love. Hasn’t He given His very life to save you from sin? Hasn’t He demonstrated His love on the Cross? Then He can provide for your lesser needs too. Even your present trials are part of His loving plan for you. And whatever God has in store for tomorrow will be another perfect expression of His love.

Written By: Joshua Harris

From his Book: BOY MEETS GIRL (Say Hello to Courtship)

God Bless Us..

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