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“INFJs do not like lying so if we think the truth will hurt someone as it does often with others, we will keep our thoughts and feelings to ourself. When we do express ourselves, we don’t holdback and reveal truths that most people are unconscious of.”

“I’ve had people who question my love for them or others as if I have ulterior motives or am a pretender. I tried to prove my love. I tried to caress. I always gave without expecting any return. I was still rejected. I gave all of me and some more but I was still a constant rejection. No more, not again, and never again will I try to prove myself. My love is now reserved for those who reciprocate it back. For others, I don’t give a crap because my love is pricey and they can’t afford it.”

“It’s not bad to feel. It’s something not everyone is capable of. It’s okay to be sensitive, to cry over a minor heartbreak, to feel anxious when life is going upside down. It’s okay to feel depressed over something that happened five years ago. It’s okay to cry in public when someone sends you a break up message. It’s okay to spend all your day in your bed beneath your comforter. You’re alright. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re a rare gem in a world full of impure ores.”

“Why do you consider yourself so weak? You’re not. You were gifted with PTSD when your partner left , you still survived. You were gifted with anxiety when you began overthinking due to your past experiences, you still survived. You were traumatized when your class fellow bullied you, you still survived. You had an abusive childhood and felt neglected, you still survived. You were naïve and someone took advantage and sexually abused you, you still survived. You cared for someone but they used you, you still survived. After going through all, you contemplated suicide, you tried to overdose yourself with drugs, you tried to cut yourself, you even went on the roof to jump down the alley – you still survived. You’re not weak. You’re the strongest person I know. You deserve a round of applause because you have the courage to never quit.”

“I was immature to believe that loving others was the foremost duty a person is obligated with. Little did I know about the painful road my beliefs would haunt me with. It was narcissistic of me to keep loving to gain the blissful satisfaction love entails. When the heart shatters, it may not physically break or make a sound. But each tiny piece of the broken heart pierces through the soul and wounds it. The wounds aren’t the kind which can heal with proper medication but the kind when you lose a part of your soul knowing that you’ll be never whole again.”

“On account of their auxiliary feelings (Fe), INFJs are devoted to listen, love and lift all of humanity. However, the path they take is grounded by their strong principles, and a general expectation of all parties being truthful (Dom Ni). And this takes a toll on INFJs as they’re forced into creating boundaries and feeling apprehensive about involving themselves with humans who too often lie, cheat, and steal their way into getting what they want. As INFJs age, they tend to develop a hard exterior, but deep down they remain the biggest softies you’ll ever meet.”

“The most important difference between introvert and and an extrovert is that an introvert is energized when alone, while an extrovert is energized by other people. Otherwise pretty much all empaths (introverts and extroverts) feel depleted when surrounding themselves with either negativity or a surplus of intense emotions. And this is why every introverts dominant function is an introverted function (Dom Ni for INFJs) while every extroverts dominant functions is an extroverted function (Dom Fe for ENFJs). In addition, Empath types typically become more introverted with age and exposure to injurious energy.”

“I look back at the road I’ve traveled and stare with amazement at how I managed to survive. It was like walking through a minefield that was prone to earthquakes, and was home to energy draining monsters who tracked me down relentlessly. It was hard, and several times I wanted to give up and let go of life. But something always made me keep pushing on. I found strength that came from a source that seemed to show up just at the moment I needed it most. I found my way out of the minefield and into place of peace and healing. As rough as the journey may have been, I know it helped me get to a place where sharing my pain can help and heal another. I know this is my purpose in this world and I will continue doing all I can to help and offer healing to as many as possible.”

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