Most introverts absolutely hate small
talk. It either feels like a huge waste of time and energy, or just a painful
formality you have to suffer through while interacting with others. Small talk
just doesn’t feel genuine. Introverts don’t tend to have a lot to use for
social interaction but we’re willing to give it if we can have a honest
connection and deep conversation with someone. If we’re able to do that, our
energy gets recharged by the person we’re sharing with and we don’t end up
feeling quite so depleted at the end. So, in order to get to that level of
connection, we have to figure out how to get small talk to turn into real talk.
Of course, there will be plenty of times that we’re forced to indulge others
and play along with the small talk game. It will suck, yet we will survive and
move on. But for situations that your interactions are longer than an elevator
ride or waiting for a bus, it’s good to have some helpful tips in mind to get
worthwile conversations started. I tend to make a funny comment about
something, see of the person rolls with it, and then see if it can turn into an
interesting conversation. If it does, there’s always opportunity for me to ask
questions and keep the interested in or have a lot of knowledge about.
-INFJ Refuge
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